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Spiritual Plagiarism
And so that was how I sat in my room thinking of something else that matters to me. Truth is, I didn’t know, neither would I be able to tell what sparked off a thought that came into my head at that moment.
I took my phone and began to type. It was barely 45mins, when I got through with the post. How the ideas flowed was an amazing thing, effortlessly, it consistently flowed.
At first, I was reluctant to share the post. I know how the people on my friend list react to most of my posts, “see and pass” barely a comment talk more of suggestions so I was scared of speaking out of context and so, refused to share the post until the next morning.
While I had my devotion that morning, two more ideas pooped into my head, I paused to include them in the existing eleven before I could lose them. Yet, I was still not convinced to share, I kept reading through for what could raise questions I may not be able to answer and trying to join some missing links and hoping to see the reason I should share the post “Dear Teenager”.
I eventually shared it on my page, on my timeline and on few other platforms. That was really unlike me, I did it with closed eyes and a hanging breathe. When all the post submitted, I refused to check their status, I went about my daily business until the notification became much and to my greatest surprise, God had spoken to so many young people.
Putting up the post was less strenuous but it engaged more people unlike some of my previous posts. I couldn’t but pause to ponder how an unplanned and a few minutes post could attract so much recommendations and commendations.
How come it spread like a wildfire and seem to have blessed more lives than most of my previous post? It was because the Holy Spirit authored it in my mind and he also took the message to the people it was meant for, therefore, so many young people contacted and others personally prayed for me because I was the physical author. When I read through one of the mails, I grinned from ear to ear, and I gave a response. I felt like someone asked me, “do you know what spiritual plagiarism is?” I was quiet for some time and that was it! I understood what that prompt meant, I had plagiarized.
Now I ask you,
“Do you know what plagiarism is?” I am a librarian and should and able to tell you a little about plagiarism; it is an academic misconduct among which is also found examination malpractice, fabrication of original report, colluding purchasing of essays etc
It therefore is the duplication of intellectual work or ideas without the corresponding acknowledgement of the original creator of the work (Bretag, 2013; Park, 2003)
Do you ever feel impressed when you notice someone took your intellectual content, removed the disclaimer and acclaimed it to be his? Well you may not have experienced it but, it is so painful seeing people credit someone who stole from you while none acknowledges you for the hard work.
So, that was how the commendation began to overflow its banks and flowed like a free flow of fountain from the mountain top. It was so overwhelming and unbelievable not because of the likes and comments, there were not much, but for the impart it made on few young people, the confession and repentance.
That was how I forgot I was just a medium through which Christ ministered to certain people and Boom! Delight got carried away. I got so engrossed in receiving the commendation.
Now follow me
As the recommendation began to roll in; first day, second day and the third day, SMS, mails, calls and numerous other chats.
The daughter of man got carried away. The flesh part of me rose its head, then the response changed to “thank you” “thank you for reading” I am glad you love the write-up” “I am glad you are blessed” “thank you dear” I barely had time to say “amen” to their prayers and kind wishes, let alone acknowledge the original author; the one who relayed the message for his people. I was sincerely overjoyed to even notice how far I had relegated the original author to the background and robbed him of the credits, I took them unconsciously.
Understand this, like I mentioned before, the likes and comments are far below what Mrs. Chinaza Favour gets on a simple post or what Angela Nwosu gets during a cash or blue eyes giveaway (funny but true), so the likes and comments were not the reason for the joy. I was only overjoyed because the message the lord sent was able to get to most of the people he authored it for.
This was evident through the people who made a personal contact to bless God for using me.
Most times, in the journey of destiny and becoming, we keep praying and asking for a voice to minister the message of the lord “oh lord! Send me or I won’t go, oh lord, give me the message or I won’t speak. You are the way the, message and the destination. Please lord, give me a voice” we pray daily; morning, afternoon and night, resisting anything that will make us die as echo and pleading to be used.
That was how the lord sent some, and gave them a voice. He decided to make them a medium through which He speaks to certain set of people. Then we begin to rob Him of His glory the very moment God began to reveal Himself, reveal the truth through us to some who are yet to understand, and we sometimes unconsciously or consciously take the glory of God; who revealed what should point the people to Him or what changed people through you.
Spiritual plagiarism is a serious matter as it is in real life. Spiritual plagiarism begins from our mind.
The very moment you feel that the appreciation you gain from doing what God helped you do was deserving, the very moment you project yourself instead of God, the very moment you begin to feel self sufficient, the very moment you feel you got it by your intelligence and smartness, the very moment you feel you are still living because you live smarter than the dead, the very moment you allow pride creep in like an innocent child and you begin to feel it was by your power, (chuckles) you are on the path to spiritual plagiarism.
“Then I will say to myself”… (Luke 12:19-20), you know the rest of the story.
It is not of him that wills or him that runs but of God that shows mercy (Romans 9:16)
Three Questions You Should Answer Before You go into a Relationship.
Teen series: Relationship 201
Chioma got to her new school, she was indifferent about the inter-school transfer until she got to the school premises, the wall paint was faded, the blocks were too dirty and the lawn full of grasses. She wondered how she would survive in her new school seeing that no one even noticed her presence, so she avoided connections with other students because they were too timid for her liking; she stayed alone until Kelvin caught a sight of her one afternoon during recess. She didn’t believe that someone like Kelvin could be in such a school. They easily bonded because they were both city returnee. They did everything in common and they studied together. Everything was all right until Kelvin caught his lips in a lock with Chioma’s. When they both realized how they had trespassed, Kelvin avoided Chioma and Chioma was down with guilt. Suddenly, Kelvin returned to Chioma and requested they became more than friends, Chioma felt she was not ready for a relationship with Kelvin, she was just 13 and Kelvin 17.
“Do you think I am ready for a relationship?” She asked
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As young as Chioma was, some parents do not see any obligation to discuss relationship with their young, thereby leaving these ones to seek answers on their own. Sometimes, friends fill them with erroneous information and other times they buy advice meant for adult consumption.
Some teenagers are under the pressure of going into a relationship because of the numerous groups where adult dating advice is given without discretion. Social media is not a disadvantage but it has made worse imparts than good on our young ones when it comes to dating and relationship.
One of the common questions I get from teenagers is “At what age do you think it is right to start dating” I look at them and smile, sometimes, they wish I could give a specific answer but I don’t even know any specific answer so I turn to them and say” I understand your desire to be with someone who thinks you are special, I felt the same way too. I know your need for someone who gives you some sense of belonging but the age at which you should say yes to dating depends on the reason you want to be in a relationship.
There may not be any spelt out age someone should go into a relationship but it depends on one’s ability to handle the responsibility that comes with being in any relationship.”
During my NYSC, my new friend told how she willingly got married at 12 and as at 2017, she was still in marriage, at 23. What if someone restricted her because they felt the age was not right? Who knows…
Irrespective of the beautiful scenerios, the burning sensation and the love malaria you experience, you must do a soul search with these three questions before you venture into a relationship:
- Do you want to be in a relationship?
As a teenager, it is very common for you to feel the way you do; it is actually not abnormal when you feel the urge to be with the opposite sex. It is development and hormones at work when you feel you need a boyfriend or you want to have sex. But the question is if you actually want to be in a relationship or your friends want you to be or you feel it is the right tag for a big boy/ big girl. Do you want to be in a relationship or you feel you are the only one who is yet to be in one or your friends feel you are possessed by some demons or you lack the ability to handle the opposite sex?
Whenever the urge to say yes or ask someone to be your girlfriend comes, ask yourself “why?” if you do have a justifiable purpose to go into a relationship as a teen or you think the answer you have given yourself is worthwhile and okay, you may need to answer the next question.
2. Can you be in a relationship?
It is one thing to think you have the ability to do something and it is actually another to have the ability in actuality. When you feel you need to be in a relationship, do you really know that relationship is work, it demands responsibility; you have to be accountable for your decision. Most times, teenagers fail woefully because they do not have the right knowledge about what they have ventured into. If the only reason you want to go into a relationship, is to satisfy the desire of being with someone whom you consider special and one who considers you same, have you asked yourself if you can also handle the bitter part of being in a relationship. Do you also know that a relationship is the connection of two people, which can flame a wild desire that you may not be able to manage, which leads to sexual immorality and subsequently, abortion.
Being in a relationship will require your time, energy, sometimes go extreme to require your body (sex), it will require you lose your independence and most often it makes you lose yourself as a teen. Do you think you give up all just to feel special? If you think you can do these and must be in a relationship now, maybe you consider the last question.
3. What do you think will be your gain at the end?
Sometimes, teenagers rush into relationships even when they do not know what to expect and they know they are not ready. Imagine a 13 year old who feels she is going into a relationship with marriage in view. Do you think at your age you won’t regret your choice of a life partner in 6 years time? What you feel you need in that person right now may look way awkward and childish when your age is 21. How do you expect to help someone when you have not found yourself? A relationship is not for someone who does not even know what he wants talk more of helping another become something. Do not mistake your crush on someone for love. Forcing yourself into a relationship when you do not have a view in mind is like sitting for an examination when you don’t need the result for anything. Be wise.
In conclusion, I leave you with my advice.
Dear Teen, there is a way that seemed right in your sight but the end therefore is death so Seek ye first the kingdom of God, seek to serve the lord as a teen, seek the right knowledge, seek wisdom, seek self discovery, seek to lay a better foundation in your academics, and seek to become emotionally stable before you seek a relationship because there is no time too late to start and build a relationship.
PS: Parents don not recruit the devil to teach your children what you are too shy to teach them because you will live to regret your wrong choice of a tutor.
From Big Sis.
Transit Woman.
Delight Udochukwu
Beauty and the Beast -A Monday morning lesson.
The Beauty and the Beast.
I occupy the apartment on the ground floor of a storey building. Behind the house and close to my kitchen window is the house sewage.
I woke up on the right side of the bed, so I gladly did my dishes while happily preparing my yam porridge after what seemed like ages. It was not as if I just heard the rush of water into the sewage for the first time but I heard it with understanding that morning🤣.
The other tenants upstairs could have used their toilet or bathroom.
Just immediately, a thought I want to share with us came into my head. I thought of the beautiful shades of the building, I thought of certain awesome buildings in cities, and it also occurred to me that each could have a waste bin and a toilet 🚽…
There is usually a little beast in every beauty. (Another verse of roses also have thorns.)
Wow! I that thought made me giggle all afternoon.
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I remembered the story of a sister who called off her engagement because of a character flaw she noticed in the brother (may be she should have tried to help the brother, but he refused to help himself… Just saying).
Certain people have ruined opportunities given to them by God through certain character flaws. Certain ministers have ruined ministry because of character flaw, certain marriages have collapsed because of character flaw. Some people have left their spouses because they felt the person across the road has no character flaw only to discover a worse case.
Unfortunately, everyone has a character flaw; it is our weakness.
Sometimes, over zealous and over righteousness people who claim they have no character flaw try to assassinate others in public while they carefully battle theirs in secret.
Character flaw could really exhude so much negative influence on others. So, a brother met a beautiful aunty and uncle couldn’t handle her temper, uncle kept going around looking for “Miss Flawless ” 😂
Mr. Or miss flawless could just be a dictionary word.
Now my take, God has made everyone beautiful and bright but despite how handsome or pretty a person is, irrespective of her online Sermonization 😂, irrespective of the jimjim, Upandan gimmicks, everyone has a character flaw.
Even though everyone has a character flaw, do you ever wonder why it is as if some people are in a self battle while others are in control? Do you ever wonder how some people manage what you are still struggling to overcome?
Then follow me.
There is none who is superhuman. They once struggled like you, they could have once expressed wild anger and broke bottles, they could possibly have struggled with lust and so on.
Then, what actually happened?
There was a discovery which led to a consciousness which had help them to get intentional about change.
Hear a similar view of Apostle Paul to this matter of discourse.
“Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away.
2 Corinthians 12:8
9 Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.”
2 Corinthians 12:9
Apostle Paul was not of the opinion that you remain unbent in your flaw. He had an understanding and could have pleaded for a permanent removal, but the Lord gave him grace to manage it. That is one of things that make us fallible and human.
Could you please stop saying “if you don’t like me, fuck off” and accept the grace to manage and be in control of your flaw?
The first call to action is to discover it yourself. Sometimes, discovery comes when everyone points a finger.
Secondly, accept the fact that you need a change, no change happens if you don’t recognize the need.
Third, don’t deceive yourself by saying “this is who I am. If they can’t accept it, I don’t have a space for you”. Most character flaws damage one.
Fourth, understand that there is no character flaw that can’t be managed and sorted under God. This doesn’t mean that you could become perfect over night, for we walk towards perfection…
You may have a different view, share if you care.
#A bright Monday morning lesson.#
#TransitWoman
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Dear Teenage Girl.
Get your seat and your writing pad. I have something to talk to you about today. You know, I have watched you over the time and have realized your need to hear this from your big sister. Big sister has the obligation to help you get through the thick and also advice you on how to avoid her mistakes.
Now write as I talk but most importantly, carve them on the tablet of your heart.
- There is nothing special about being on big girls gang. It is so common for you to feel you have grown, especially when you look up yourself in the mirror and see those changes that have taken place in various parts of your body. There will be temptations to be like the other girls but don’t let that worry you. I heard your friends tell you all the benefits, but listen to big sister, those benefits are illusionary if you jumped steps.
- You have a mind of your own. Don’t let anyone deceive you into what isn’t good for you. Don’t let them tell you “you are just a child, you don’t have the ability to reason”. I am not asking you to take certain decisions without the help of reasonable and responsible older people but I am asking you not to allow anyone pressure you on issues that are not right for you or take advantage of you being a teenager.
- What your friends do are not always the right thing. Sometimes, they make you believe you are missing so much for not doing certain things they do. Listen, they lied. What is morally right should be your priority. Don’t let your friends set wrong standards for you.
- You don’t need to have a boyfriend when you are not ready. I understand you may have pressure from guys, especially with the kind of beauty you posses. I have heard your friend tell you how you are not a complete woman if you didn’t have a boyfriend. I know you are human with emotions but learn to put them under control until you can handle the responsibility that comes with relationships. Dear teenager, they lied again when they told you that boys give you life essence. Don’t let them push you like they tried to push me. Listen, don’t let them use certain cliches to initiate you into unwanted burden.
- You don’t need a boy to survive. My baby, listen, you have equal hands, fingers, and brain Cells like that boy close to you. Don’t listen to lazy girls who exploit or depend on innocent guys to survive. Be a responsible lady, take care of yourself, Pay your bills when you can, learn to save and manage money, be intentional about finances and don’t forget to see that guy as a fellow human and not some automated money making machine, that’s if you don’t want to become an object of self satisfaction and slave.
- Virginity is not timidity. Don’t let them deceive you into believing that strong rods of iron may be used to deflower you when marry. When they tell you, you wouldn’t be able to give birth on your own, you won’t be able to satisfy your husband after marriage and when you are married, you won’t be able give birth at all, don’t mind them, they lied once again.
- Dear sister, I understand your breasts have grown so well, they are not meant to feed your area boys. They are meant to be part of your private parts, cover them well. Preserve them them till you are free to use them to fulfill the purpose they were given to you for.
- When you grow taller than your elders, it is not a yardstick to become disrespectful to them. Respect everyone and most importantly, your elders. You lose nothing when you greet an elder you are obviously taller and bigger than. In fact, you have everything to gain when you do. Honour your father and your mother, that it may go well with you and you will live long on earth and prosper. Don’t imitate young girls who abuse elders.
- Take your studies seriously. You are not disadvantaged for being female. You can be everything great which you have set your heart to achieve, don’t set wrong priorities. Aim high and work hard, the sky would be just a stepping stone.
- Be courageous. You don’t know the much you can achieve by just being courageous. Wait! I was once locked in a room by a man I considered my Uncle in church, when I was just 12, he wanted to defile me but I was courageous, though deeply fearful, yet I looked him straight up and told him “if you dare touch me or force me to your bed, I wouldn’t only tell my parents but I will also call the police on you.” I don’t know where the courage to speak came from but I know he was fixed at the point he was until I stormed out of his room and started off to school again. I was an introvert but I was courageous at the time. The second time I came face to face with such situation, I felt crying and begging could save me, if not for God, it could have happened. Be courageous and wise.
- Listen, don’t let anyone tempt you with what your parents, you and close family members can’t afford. Whatever you or them could not afford at that time is actually not meant for you at that time. Look, what I am saying is this, don’t cut corners to look like your friends, don’t ever feel intimidated by their ways of life. I tell you, everything you could not afford now, you will afford better when the time is right.
- Everyone should not be your acquaintance. This was my mistake and I was saved by grace. Anyone you can’t meet their material life standard, anyone who doesn’t believe in morality should not be your friend, anyone you compete to wear exactly what they wear, should not be your friend. You know why? They may compel you to derail by forcing yourself to step up their level. Accept good challenges and keep improving yourself.
- There is no age at which you could begin to relate with your maker. God is God for both old and young. Listen, the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. If you desire wisdom, embrace him. He is always willing and able to help you. Just talk to him about your needs. When you are pushed to the walls, fall back on him and He will rescue you. Trust him with all your heart and He will direct your path. Don’t let them lie to you again “Enjoy your youth and serve God when you are old enough” is a lie from the devil. You are not sure of tomorrow which is the reason you should serve God today. Be your best and see the best.
I am still your big sister. Let me know what you think. Reach out to me via delight.udochukwu@yahoo.com.
I will be waiting.
Transit Woman
Delight Udochukwu.
What Do You Need.
Handsome Abeyomi was given a blank cheque. His foster mother and sister thought he was going to ask for something reasonable. They kept begging him to state his demand, even the mama was scared he could ask for something she may not afford. It was not long before he muttered something under his breath. The woman didn’t understand until the foster sister explains that he wanted “that thing that they fill in air which doesn’t last long before it bursts”.
Just after the explanation, then he said again “bolobolo” 😂 Hey! Jesus! So this boy cried for days only to request for a balloon that burst the next minute, and he continued his cry from where he stopped.
When I watched that part, it reminds me that I could have been that foolish when God has said “Ask I am listening” then you hear me say “God I need a husband who has 27 packs” 😂. I sure believe at that moment, angels will look at me and shake their heads in surprise.
That’s by the way, but you know, sometimes what I feel I need from God, that same thing that makes me groan in the place of prayer daily, could only be a lone branch which when it dries fades away.
Each time you have opportunity to ask, first ask for sense, then proceed to ask beyond your wants.
#The Train
Healthy Lane 